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OUTing our Cultural Assumptions
Culture is something we take for granted…it’s the water we swim in…the paradigm of reality that we can hardly even see because it’s all we know. It’s what we’re born into…the worldview and reality that get passed down from generation to generation.
It’s actually a bundle of assumptions about the world…a collection of ideas, expectations, practices and behaviors that are commonly held so deeply by members of a shared society that they appear to be universal (even though they’re actually culturally specific). These unquestioned principles determine how we view the world…and, therefore, how we behave in it.
You know what they say about ASSumptions…
Following cultural norms and allowing cultural assumptions to lead our way isn’t necessarily a bad idea. In fact, for most of our human history that’s what people have done…they learn their customs and traditions, mimic their elders and mature within the context of the culture they were born into.
But, for better or worse, those of us who have been born into a westernized industrial society don’t have this luxury…because the culture that we’ve been born into is curating its own destruction while it devastates every other culture, species and ecosystem on the planet.
This situation has escalated to such a level that, despite our cultural conditioning, many of us can no longer ignore it. We’re beginning to realize that letting these predominant cultural assumptions lead our way is signing a death sentence, not only for ourselves but for extended web of life, as well.
This time of global crisis is being accompanied by a significant uprising in personal empowerment and human consciousness. And that means…in this rare and precious moment…we actually have a choice about whether or not we’ll follow suit with our culture. Nothing is certain anymore…everything is up for review.
But, as we reexamine our relationship with the predominant culture, the first challenge we’ll face is in getting a clear view on it…gaining enough perspective on our collective situation and enough understanding of our cultural assumptions to avoid winding up just running in circles and feeding the same old machine in a different way.
Getting a clear view…
The deeply imbedded cultural bias we each carry makes it almost impossible to see our own culture with clarity. Usually, when we think about culture, we look for the differences. We can only point to evidence of some other culture by noticing unfamiliar crafts, clothing, art and housing or the foreign language, customs, style and etiquette that are used. It’s in the comparing and contrasting of distinctly different cultures that we’re even able to notice the nuances and consider the cultural assumptions that may guide them.
But, as cultural homogeny spreads across the globe and the distinction between cultures fades away this is becoming ever more difficult.
And herein lies the clue. Our culture…the one in question…is the one that’s sweeping its way across the globe. It’s the one that has been packaged and marketed and sold to people in almost every country on the planet, displacing centuries of tradition with factory produced uniformity.
Despite our ethnic and ancestral differences we’ve all become part of this conquering culture now.
It is the industrial growth society, as Joanna Macy coined it…the society and culture held up by an industrially based economy of continual growth…the one that requires exploiting the Earth to acquire “natural resources” and relies on an industrially produced food supply…the one that conditions its members to depend on industrial products for almost all their daily activities, from clothing and communications to recreational gear and cleaning products, from building materials and transportation…it all comes from a factory.
It is also the nation state culture…the one that recognizes modern national borders, constitutions and laws established by colonization and imperialism…the one that honors hierarchy of power and the “right” to rule won through conquest and war…the one that is guided by agreements and treaties made by heads of state within international organizations such as the UN, the WTO and the WHO.
And, of course, it is the technology culture…the one fed by mass media and connected through the World Wide Web. We know we’re part of it simply because we’re reading this article online.
We may take all these things for granted as “just the way things are”…as universal inevitable realities…but, whether we see them as useful or harmful, it’s essential for us to realize that these infrastructures and systems are in place only because of our collective culturally specific assumptions.
So, what are these cultural assumptions that it all rides on?
Well, that’s a big question…one bigger than I could attempt to answer on my own or do justice to in a little online article…it’s a question for our collective ongoing exploration and conversation…a question that we dove into on a recent Earth Tribe Council Call and that we can continue to explore in the comments below.
As we open our minds to discover the assumptions that guide our culture we’ll have to be like detectives…finding evidence and clues that characterize our culture…then tracing them back to the root beliefs.
Along the way, we may discover that we don’t personally agree with some (or many) of the assumptions that lay the groundwork for our culture. We may not want to associate ourselves with these beliefs. But recognizing and owning the cultural conditioning that we’ve received is the first step in gaining the clarity necessary to transform it.
Some of the underlying cultural assumptions that come to mind for me are…
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success is measured in other people’s opinions, how much money you have, what you look like and what you own…
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everyone has to work for a living and prove their worth…
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there’s not enough for everyone to thrive…
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we exist within a hierarchy of value, meaning that some things/people are more important than others…
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our prosperity is dependent on exponential continual industrial growth…
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humanity is the pinnacle result of evolution and has dominion over the Earth…
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the Earth is made of resources for our use…
This is just the tip of the iceberg. Hopefully it gets your gears turning. I invite you to let this question unfold in your mind and walk with you through your days. Observe this culture we live in and begin to investigate our shared cultural assumptions for yourself. Then contribute to the comments below to share your thoughts and curiosities.
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What’s it gonna take?
When the newsfeed and broadcasts get flooded with images and stories of violence, oppression, injustice and pollution…do you ever think to yourself… “What’s it gonna take?”
What’s it gonna take for us to change our ways? To realize, once and for all, that this culture of disconnection and disrespect is a dead end street…to wake up to the fact that we are running out of time and space and resources and grace for this blatantly brutal way of life…to not only realize these truths but to allow them to change our collective course of action.
I see momentary flare ups of outrage, compassion, inspiration and despair filtering through our posts and comments. Our emotions stirred by a sickness that feels too big to heal. Some of us would rather ignore it…some joke about drinking it away…having our kicks before the whole shithouse goes up in flames…some of us scramble to fill out all the different petitions and stay informed about all of the issues…and some of us send our prayers for healing into the vastness. But the thread running through it all is this listless sense of hopelessness and disconnection.
A sinking feeling inside of powerlessness. A feeling that the system is just too big and has too much momentum…that it’s got us by the balls. It’s had us since the day we were born, taken away from our mamas in sterile hospitals, put into plastic boxes, preventing the natural nurturing that our DNA expected and severing our bond with the natural world…It’s got us in our wallets, in our government, on our dinner plates, in our schedules, in our children’s schooling…it’s even got us in our own minds and bodies as we wrestle with addiction, doubt, fear and anxiety. It’s enough to make us just wanna give in and give up. But…
Genuine change is being called for. And WE are the ones being called.
It’s true…you and me…those of us who are blessed with the wherewithal and freedom to even reflect on this situation…those of us who have the emotional capacity to feel the outrage and grief…those of us who can see right through the lies…those of us who are smart enough and curious enough to dig down to the roots of this culture madness…those of us who are creative enough to reweave a new culture through our personal thoughts, actions and deeds…to start with ourselves and our families and establish innovative and positive new ways of being in the world.
It’s time for us to flip the script on this whole story and rewrite it from beginning to end. It’s time to unplug from the circuits of destruction and root into the cycle of regeneration. It’s time to turn away from violence and cruelty and cultivate peace. It’s time to reconnect with our true wild natural selves and give them permission to reach for the light of the sun. It’s time to stop waiting for permission and liberation to be handed down by big government and instead grant ourselves the freedom that we (and our ancestors) have so long been fighting for.
What it’s going to take is a radical transformation of our culture…from the inside out.
And that means it has to start with US. There’s no way around it. All the wisdom of our elders, from the native prophesies to the teachings of Mahatma Gandhi show us that this change has to start from within. That we need to be the change we wish to see in the world. That only through our own deeds and actions will we be able to make the world green again. That we are the ones we’ve been waiting for.
If we want to see justice, freedom and ecological sanity in our world we’ll have to pour our hearts and hands into co-creating a culture that actually supports these values. We’ll have to renounce that old story of hopelessness and reclaim our personal and collective power. We’ll have to untangle the dysfunctional patterns, beliefs and behaviors that define this version of culture and take personal responsibility for what we choose and create with our words and actions, in our relationships and purchases, with our time and inspiration. And, most importantly, we’ll have to come together in mutual support as a human family.
Coming together to weave a new web…
When push comes to shove, evolutionarily speaking, cooperation and ingenuity always win out over competition and preserving the status quo. The organisms that survive are the ones who learn to adapt to the changing circumstances and cooperate with their fellow organisms. As we rapidly approach the brick wall of total systems collapse I feel this primal yearning inside of me screaming out to connect…to collaborate…to share and learn from each other…to get creative and explore our capacity for change and come together in a web of mutual support.
We have many things to unlearn and relearn…many wounds to heal and patterns to retool… many systems to recreate and habits to outgrow. As we help each other examine and transform the many threads of our cultural reality we can reweave the web of a new culture together. Empowering each other through connection will create a groundswell of transformation that can merge with all of the other life-loving grassroots movements that are arising across the globe at this time of great change.
In order for this transformation to effectively serve the highest wellbeing of all, it has to start way down at the taproot of our personal experience and grow, holistically and comprehensively, through all the branches of our collective reality.
I certainly don’t have all the answers and I don’t imagine anyone else does either but…I trust that we’ll find our way together as we collectively dive into this powerful, living exploration.
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Becoming Whole
Two years ago the dentist told me my tooth was dead. It turns out that teeth are living beings and, just like people, they can die. And, just like people, when they go they leave a big gaping hole where they once lived.
This is a story of healing and transformation of release and surrender. This is a story of fear and despair outshined by courage and the will to live.
Choosing to remove the long and beautiful incisor tooth that had been with me most of my life felt like a big decision. But, like putting down a beloved pet or taking a loved one off of life support, it was one of those tough decisions that isn’t a decision at all but really more just a matter of timing. And it took me awhile to saddle up to it.
Over the two years that followed this pronouncement of death I had a lot to learn, feel into, discover about myself and let go of before I was able to release the tooth itself. Who knew a tooth could hold such mysteries?
I knew something had to be done about this dead tooth that was slowing leaking infection into my otherwise healthy body but I just didn’t like any of the options the dentist offered. I didn’t want to give up on this tooth that easily. I wasn’t ready to have it taken away and, in alignment with the natural values and practices I live my life by, I felt there must be a way to revitalize it naturally. If it could be done, I would do it!
So I started out on a journey that I thought was about proving that natural medicine can cure even the seemingly uncurable. It’s funny how life works…we think we know what we’re doing while, in fact, we’re doing something so much more important. This journey led me a different healing path entirely and it was exactly where I needed to go.
My first stop on the journey was to the office of a magical natural healer with gazillions of tricks up her sleeve and deeply powerful intuition. By tuning into my tooth and unfolding my story through a series of questions she revealed an energetic pattern that had its roots in the foundational trauma of my childhood.
In the Summer of my 9th year I experienced a loss that shocked my soul and shattered my heart. My oldest sister and the hero of my life died instantly when she crashed her car into a tree. In that moment my little girl consciousness scrambled to make sense of this outrageous truth. A complex mess of protective mechanisms and coping strategies were set in motion without my awareness. Ever since that moment I have been studying the fallout from this trauma and untangling the patterns it created.
After 25 years of deep inquiry, personal growth work and the profound healing I’d experienced I thought I had covered it all. When I came in asking for holistic methods to bring my tooth back to life I really didn’t think it was going to go back to that same old story. I was almost annoyed…but I’ve learned to accept each new layer of the onion, because they always teach me what I need to know.
When my sister died a huge part of my spirit receded into the shadows of my being. The vulnerable squishy tender hopeful optimistic playful loving part of me went into hiding and a hard shell formed around my fragile heart. Part of that shell was a personality double that fronted for me and kept everyone else at bay. She wasn’t necessarily happy but she had some fun and minded her p’s and q’s enough to stay out of trouble and off the radar. She aced her tests and answered all the questions just right to keep the grownups satisfied.
In an effort to protect myself I withdrew from the fullness of life.
I no longer sunk my teeth into life. I no longer cared what happened. I no longer believed that the future held magical goodness. I became cynical and scared. I was afraid to grow up. Afraid to trust. Afraid to hope. Afraid to succeed. Afraid to shine. Afraid to connect deeply with others. Afraid to ask for help and receive it. Afraid to love. The belief that I took on in those tender years was that “if it got too good, it would get taken away.”
As I journeyed into adulthood I always struggled with these disparate parts of myself. I wanted to hope. But I was scared to. I wanted to dream BiG. But I didn’t believe it would work out. I loved the brilliance of the human spirit and creativity and I hated humanity for what we’ve done to the planet. I was often inspired by the chance to be alive at this time of great change and then scared shitless by it. I yearned for connection, depth, honesty, engagement with the REALness of life, but I subconsciously held it all at arms length to stay safe. I played out the control freak and the emotional tyrant patterns in my relationships to fend off true intimacy. The “I can do it myself” attitude that helped me survive those early years after the death when all of the adults in my life were decimated in their own grief wound up keeping me from being able to ask for and receive help from others.
As I faced down this dead tooth all of these old patterns were exposed for the sabotage mechanisms that they were. I was trying to keep it all together…all by myself…paying the rent, improving my business, staying healthy despite the low grade infection I was running, being a fun mom and providing all the good things I think my daughter needs, being an active community member, staying sane (enough) to manage day by day…all while trying to bring a tooth back from the dead. It was all fueled by fear…and none of it was working. Over these past two years my whole house of cards has fallen down and I have been left with my greatest fears rearing their ugly heads.
I lost. I lost the game of keeping it all together. I lost the game of “I can do it all by myself.” I lost my financial security. And I lost my tooth.
As the infection got worse and I could no longer control it with herbs and natural self care I had to humble up and release. I had to soften my attachment to the outcome. I had to ask for guidance and help in so many ways. And, to my great delight, it was right there waiting for me after all these years…
My mother stepped in to pay the dentist bill. My dear friend and midwife drove me to my appointment, making sure I was well nourished with food and tea and melodies. My sister took care of my daughter while I was away and then my daughter took care of me when I got back. My lover held me close and counseled me through the emotional release of letting go of all these years of holding on. And…he thinks I’m beautiful even with my toothless smile! (thank the Goddess)
In losing this tooth I have become whole again.
As I prepared for the tooth extraction I realized that it was gathering all these old stories and patterns…that the tooth was actually collecting all of those protective mechanisms, all those ways that I kept myself from living in my full authenticity, all those fears that kept me locked up so that they could be released.
I used the Heart Sutra Mantra while the dentist was removing all of this from my being in the form of an old dead tooth.
“GATE GATE PARA GATE PARASAM GATE BODHI SVAHA!”
Gone, gone, totally gone, totally completely gone, enlightened, so be it.
And as I planted the tooth in the ground in sacred ritual with song and mantra that tender part of myself that had been hiding away all these years was being called to rejoin the wholeness of my being.
Now, 27 years after my sister’s death (which I just realized is the Saturn return of that trauma, btw) it’s time for me to release that old identity and be reborn into the next version of myself.
Now I’m fully HERE…grateful to be ALIVE…excited to grow up and grow old, willing to love and play…living outloud, raw and vulnerable…believing in miracles and the Divine benevolence that runs through all things…relaxing into my fullness of being…investing my heart and soul into it all and saying YES to my heart’s longings…letting myself fall and falter in plain view…getting messy and making mistakes…not knowing the answers and still willing to try…wearing my heart on my sleeve and letting you all know that i LOVE you! i LOVE this earth! i LOVE humanity…and, even though it’s scary and confusing to admit that we don’t know the solutions to the problems we’re facing as a human family and a global ecosystem, I believe that WE are the ones who can figure them out together and make the world healthy and whole again with our healing!
Thank you for reading and for being on this healing journey of LIFE with me!!
Here’s a little musical treat for you all to go with this story….Buried in Teeth by Mariee Sioux
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Holiness
I had this idea of wholeness
Like I was supposed to keep it all together
Like I was supposed to figure it all out and fix it…
To hold on to all of it
That there was shame in losing any part of myself
But life and healing demand release…
The letting go and loosening of old stories and beliefs that bind us to illness
Sometimes I know just when to surrender
Opening like a flower
Responding like a dancer to the rhythm of growth
And sometimes I clutch and sputter
Clinging and grasping to the old even while I cry out for relief from it
It’s these releases that shake me to my roots
Humble me and remind me that wholeness is an illusion
That healing is messy and requires crumbling…
Falling to pieces and reassembling myself over and over
Sacrificing the pieces and parts of myself that embody the old scripts of disease
And that through this gifting…wholeness gives way to holiness.
Hush Hush…
Hush hush quiet now…
we are leaving the rush of things to get done
and missions to accomplish…
Journeying deep into the white woods,
covered in crystalized snow.
Crunching beneath feet and huffing of breath
the only sounds now
as thin streams of sunlight
dance on the glossy surface
of what was once a playfully dancing mountain creek.
Artfully curled layers of ice hint at the movement
that was halted by the cold touch of Mother Winter…
as tender bubbles of air beg for release beneath the freeze.
I pause, strained from the long walk through deep snow,
feeling the weight and the slowness
of these short cold days in my body…
the blood thick in my veins…
each cell and muscle longing to retreat into the deep
yearning for permission to hibernate and dream.
I pause and I listen.
Hush hush quiet now…
We have arrived
To where the river whispers her secret messages
Coldest of waters, almost frozen, still trickling beneath layers of ice…
with a voice like a grandmother…
carrying the ancient wisdom of the white season
for those who can slow down enough to hear…
Turning Inspiration into Action (with Julia Butterfly Hill and Daryl Hannah)
Do you ever get all fired up after listening to an inspirational TED talk or watching a documentary about this pivotal time we’re living in? Do you get passionate and inspired and feel the energy of change moving through you?
And then, in the face of your daily tasks, what happens to all that enthusiasm?
When I was at the Arise Festival this month, I had the opportunity to listen to two exceptionally dedicated environmental activists speak to the importance of turning our inspiration into action. Julia Butterfly Hill and Daryl Hannah shared their stories of how they came to be advocates for the Earth and what it takes to live as a stand for ecological sanity in these crazy times.Turning your inspiration into action can feel nearly impossible in this world of keeping up with the bills and just trying to get by. But in this time of unprecedented societal and environmental degradation it is exactly what is needed…from each and every one of us.
The Disease of Disconnection
In telling her story, Julia let us know that she doesn’t actually consider herself an activist…instead she sees herself as a holistic health practitioner. And this is because at the root of all the fracking and clear cutting, all the animal cruelty and social injustice, all the greed and manipulation of technology is the disease of disconnection that our society is built on. Our whole society relies on destroying what is important…destroying the very foundation of life.
She says, in order to create a world in which we can thrive we don’t need any more technology or innovation…we need more connection. We need to connect with what truly matters and dedicate ourselves to caring for it.
It’s this disconnection that allows our life support system to be traded for BiG gas and oil profits. While we go about our daily business, BiG gas and oil is working on expanding the tar sands to the size of Florida, pushing the XL pipeline through the center of this continent and opening up more fracking operations across the country (even on the San Andreas fault line in CA…crazy!!). These endeavors, combined with the endless list of others like them, have us perched on the brink of total systems collapse…lots of financial profit for BiG gas and oil = uninhabitable planet…that’s a major disconnect.
Needless to say, it’s time to take action! And here are some simple pieces of advice that Julia and Daryl shared from their own experience of stepping into action and taking up a role in turning this ship around…
Get over yourself, your fears and your addiction to comfort.
They reminded us that we’re all addicted to comfort and that most of us just want to go on with our simple little lives, without rocking the boat. But the problem is that the boat is going down. None of us have the luxury of playing it safe anymore or standing by while someone else does the work…we’re all needed.
In accounting her story of selling all of her possessions, leaving her corporate career behind and taking up residence on a 4×8 platform 18 stories up a redwood tree for over 2 years to protest the clear cutting of this ancient forest, Julia reminded us that the butterfly only becomes a butterfly through the process of liquification…leaving behind all comfort. She says “We have to let our hearts break open and give ourselves fully to this healing.”
Constantly align your lifestyle with your beliefs and values.
When Daryl was asked about her life as an earth advocate and activist she reflected that it’s a constant work in progress. She said that it requires her to continually refine and align her life choices in relation to her values.
This process can start anywhere. As someone who cares for the future of our world you can start right now by getting honest about which parts of your lifestyle are in alignment with your values and which ones you’re ready to bring into alignment.
Collaborate and connect with others who are doing the work.
Several times during the conversation, Julia reminded us all that the changes we need to see are going to come from collaboration. She encouraged us to get involved by connecting with others who are already doing the work to support them or collaborate with them.
They told a story of their recent action to protest the Keystone XL pipeline where Daryl positioned herself to get arrested with the 78 year old women who owned the land that TransCanada was trespassing on. Julia wasn’t in a position to get arrested at the time so they decided that Daryl would make the stand and Julia would do the ‘behind the scenes’ work to make sure the press was notified. It’s not all about these direct action protests and getting arrested but the point is that there are always multiple roles to be played and there’s always a way for you to offer your support.
Stay alert to what’s calling you and offer it with fierce love and dedication.
When Daryl was asked which issues she thought were the biggest priorities at this time she said… “it’s all one song,” meaning it’s all the same issue and that all the different facets are essential for us to face.
She said that we’ll all be called to serve different parts of this healing process and that all we have to do is follow that calling with fierce love and dedication. They reminded us to look for the clues and miracles in the mundane moments of our lives…to stay alert to what matters to us and to how we are called to serve it.
Taking Action
Hearing their stories and getting to feel their power and commitment to the healing of the Earth lit me up with inspiration. The abundance of uplifting music at the festival and the power of presentations like this had me flying high on the possibilities for the great transformation we are entering into…on the hope that we can restore what has been damaged.
Now…to make that inspiration really worth something I’ve gotta turn it into action.
Turning the inspiration into action in our every day life can be challenging. It means we have to confront the inertia of the status quo…the heavy pull of habits and distractions…of procrastination and limiting beliefs. To take empowered action in our lives we need a real boost of energy and a focused intent.
That’s why I’m gathering a group of passionate, inspired people like you together this fall. For 28 days, full moon to full moon, we’ll be focusing our intent together and generating the energetic boost we all need to overcome our blocks and barriers to taking action. (learn more at the link below)
Join in on the fun with Activate Your Personal Power!
Register before September 17, 2013 to take part in this powerful group experience
Arise…ing
Arise…ing
in a whole new way…
pivotal moments opening doors of being.living.perceiving
with greater capacities of wow and now…of hope and faith…
of the YESness that feeds the starlight fire of sovereign beings
intimately interwoven in the miraculous web of magical life.
Arising……..
Lifting our hearts and songs and dance UP to the Great Mysterious Source
as an offering of beauty and thanks giving.
Growing beyond the limitations of our comforts and fears…
stepping out of the box of our personal preferences and petty desires…
breaking free from the confines of the media induced stupor
that has held us to mindlessly climbing ladders of accumulation…
so we can pour our lives down and into the Great Mother
as an offering of love and nourishment…
feeding Her with our respect and reverence…
Nursing Her back to health and thrivation
by learning to listen to Her once again.
knows not the language
the mountain grasses and wild flowers are a buzz with life this morning
a whole universe at play amongst the tiny flying ones
swarming and buzzing and fluttering in their own unique dimension
pollinating the matrix of life and who knows what else
busy and thriving, dive bombing flowers
and barreling through the grass seed
making music with their tiny super-speed wings
each a different tone, vibrating in a strange harmony
sitting still here in the field like a stone within the rushing river
i let them gather and swarm around my face
they land and take tiny strolls across the crest of my cheek,
around the curve of my ear, tickling me with their dainty feet
they take off, buzz around and come back for another turn
are they studying me?
this strange large warm being
not a flower or a tree
not an elk or a rabbit
one who hasn’t been here before
and knows not the language of this place
the remembering
after hours and days and weeks of driving i was almost there
i cracked the window against the pure black night
and a stream of crystal cool mountain air poured into the car
i drank it in with my whole body and relaxed all my bones
aaaahh…i was home
not to my house. Not to my town and friends and family
but to the purity and precious harmony of the mountain wilderness
powering down the car with its electric lights and rumbling motor
i was left in the darkness
raw in the face of the cosmos
cradled between the cool black Earth and the star soaked Sky
and i remembered…

an openness in my heart…a softness in my mind…
a listening beyond my ears
a YESness in my being
and something quiet…almost unperceivable and utterly ineffable